Thank you so, so much for taking the time to answer and I am so, so glad you shared your thoughts here. And please don't worry about it, write as much as you want!
The bit I highlighted here is so true and exactly one of the things I was getting at, but of course your comment is full of good points.
Men have tried to flip things on their head and they expect to be the one serviced and "pleased" when it should be the other way around, and I suspect it's because it pushes them to grow and assume a role that suits them the best, and they don't like it because of immaturity. This results in giant problems like the porn industry which is an enormous illusion crafted for men to think that they not wanting to accommodate women is "fine", even though it isn't.
Women's bodies and especially vaginas aren't free real estate for people to trash around however they want and yet that's exactly what they do, hence why your point makes so much sense, because in truth it's by pleasing the woman that a man can really have a good experience himself, if only because of physiological responses as well. This is honestly exactly what I wanted to get at.
And absolutely, the example of women being dressed a certain way is 100% a male problem, people who have zero ability to control their own reactions and urges, and who sublimate by blaming it as I said on what they think is the provocateur. It's like they haven't understood women are just existing and they're the ones getting so triggered. And frankly it's the same across so many religions, where the woman's sexuality is what's put under veils of repression because men can't just develop self-mastery.
I think you make an excellent point regarding our respective anatomies and what it is supposed to lead to. I also think that women being meant to "receive", as you put it, is too often twisted into a form of passivity, which leads us to descent into those infamous sexist gender roles... But the way you phrase it I think has the original essence of the idea. And while I'm not religious myself (I'm sure you could tell lol, despite having been raised by a die-hard religious mom), I also very much like how you argue that even the essence of god would be pissed off at what's happening here, because it's such a fundamental and blatant mistake on all levels that even god would be pissed.
